Conflict and Disagreement

Why is it that, so often, people regard conflict and disagreement as synonymous? "Why can't we all just not get along?"

This page is a stub, created on 2020-05-29 (last updated on 2020-10-03). Its contents are notes on the issues and angles I want to address about this topic.

So my quoting Dick Solomon from 3rd Rock from the Sun in his "Why can't we all just not get along?" speech is a bit tongue-in-cheek, but there are some important sentiments in there, including the importance of an allegiance to the truth, even if it leads to offense. Of course, in my view, we can disagree about things, people can be flat-out wrong, and yet, we can perfectly well "get along". ("just not get along", properly understood, is maybe "just disagree without manufacturing unnecessary conflict".)

What is the precondition of constructive disagreement? How can we disagree without its turning into contentious, acrimonious, adversarial, argumentative, unpleasant conflict?

Some factors to consider: