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There are a lot of phrases we use that have subtle psychological effects on how we approach ourselves, others, and the world generally.

This page is a stub, created on 2020-04-07 (last updated on 2024-04-17). Its contents are notes on the issues and angles I want to address about this topic.


There are a lot of phrases we use that have subtle psychological effects on how we approach ourselves, others, and the world generally.

I've been thinking a lot about certain kinds of reframings that have been very helpful for me:

  • "[X] makes me feel [Y]" → "I feel [Y] because [X] holds [Z] meaning for me" or "hearing [X], I feel [Y]"
  • "endure" → "choose"
  • "let go" → "sit with" or "let be"
  • "allow" → "welcome" (with respect to feeling certain emotions; HT Dana Torres)
  • "let myself [X]" → "direct myself [X]" or just "I [X]"
  • "get past" → "work through"
  • "fix" → "heal"
  • "broken" → "wounded"
  • "change" → "grow"
  • "you [X]" → "I'm imagining you [X]" or "the story I'm telling myself is you [X]"
  • "balance" → "integrate"
  • "negative emotions" → "unpleasant emotions"
  • "angry at" → "angry that" → "frustrated that"
  • "work/life balance" → "work/non-work balance" → "work/non-work integration"