How can an understanding and policy of openness lead to a reduction in both susceptibility to being hurt and also the need to overcome fear to be raw and authentic?
I want to write a few things about the distinction between what I call "technical vulnerability" (which is actually risking pain by equipping others with the tools to harm you through your own openness and authenticity) and the feeling of vulnerability (which is about the feeling of fear and requiring courage to be open, raw, and authentic). (related Facebook post from 2019-06-07)
An additional thing to explore is how a policy of openness and authenticity that's grounded in a deep understanding of its overall and long-term benefits leads not only to the reduction of fear and the need of courage to be "vulnerable" (this is maybe what Brené Brown means when she describes "shame resilience"), but an actual reduction in the "technical vulnerability" of being hurt by others, since one's emotional calibration becomes less sensitive to others' intentional or unintentional weaponization of openness.
Maybe this needs to go into a different post, but I want to address the issue of when openness and transparency masquerade as vulnerability (not "technical vulnerability", but the sense in which vulnerability is a means of deep connection between people).
Other points to explore:
- connection to privacy
- connection to "masculinity"
- repression versus vulnerability
- Derek Hart Facebook Post
- Vulnerability is imperfection.
- Vulnerability is having a lack of confidence on purpose.
- Vulnerability is stumbling on your words.
- Vulnerability is beginning a sentence before you know the end of the sentence.
- Vulnerability is slowly observing what’s happening with yourself, and stating it without blame.
- Vulnerability is telling another person how they’ve hurt you, with such gentleness, that it doesn't repel them, but brings them towards you.